Bride Says Husband and Mother in Law 'Ruined' Her Wedding Day After Pressuring Her Into Bridal Photoshoot

Mar. 15, 2025

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A bride is feeling conflicted after her wedding day wishes weren’t respected.

The bride said she and her husband didn’t want a big wedding, and that she specifically didn’t want a photoshoot on the couple’s big day.

“My self esteem is in the toilet. In the last 18 months I have put on weight. I am not looking to make excuses but there are some reasons why,” wrote adding, “In the last 18 months I have lost both parents and my grandmother. I have lost 2 jobs and had a miscarriage. Depression has hit me hard at times and I have been comfort eating.”

She continued: “I was put on a new medication and weight gain is a side effect, and finally, “About a year ago I broke my left ankle badly. I have had 3 surgeries to date (the last one was 10 days before the wedding). I can’t walk without pain.”

Despite the bride not wanting photos or to go to the location, her in-laws drove them there while her husband remained silent. “Long story short the photos are taken and we head back,” she said, adding: “I look ridiculous in a dress with a medical boot and I can’t stop the tears rolling down my cheeks.”

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“This upsets my [mother in law] and there is an atmosphere the whole rest of the day. I really tried to move on, but I had to get out of that stupid dress and all I really just wanted to hide away,” she continued. The bride later told her husband that he and his mother “ruined our wedding day” with the pictures.

“He said he didn’t realise I was so serious about no photos, that it’s only for his mum to keep and that he thinks I look beautiful,” the bride said.

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As far as the bride was concerned, her husband and mother in law “totally ignored my one request and that was unacceptable,” and he thinks she was being unreasonable. The bride asked the Reddit community if she was the AH in this situation — and many appeared sympathetic towards the bride, but reminded her that it was also her husband’s big day.

Some users spoke about how the bride’s wishes should have been respected. “You made a clear and simple request to not have photos on your wedding day due to your personal feelings and circumstances, and both your husband and MIL ignored that,” one user said.

“It’s super frustrating when your boundaries aren’t respected, especially on your wedding day. They really missed what you wanted,” a third person wrote, siding with the bride. “Your feelings are totally valid, and it sounds like a serious talk with your husband is needed.. he should be supporting you through all this.”

One Redditor saw both sides of the situation. “I have empathy for OP, but I also think it’s likely that her husband wanted some photos of his wedding day, and that his parents decided to help make that happen,” they said.

“It’s definitely not okay that MIL and FIL pressured OP into the photos on the day of the wedding, but it seems like OP and her husband should have had more of a conversation about photos before the wedding.”

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Someone else noted that their wedding day wasn’t only about the bride’s wishes. “Maybe your husband wanted photos of his wedding. The wedding is not all about the bride, let’s get that straight.”

“Have you even considered that that was supposed to be the most beautiful day for your husband?” another agreed.

Others suggested that the wedding shouldn’t have happened when it did. “From the sounds of it, you really should have postponed the wedding until you’re in a much better place mentally,” one wrote.

source: people.com