Bride Tells 'Clingy' Friend Not to Book Same Flight as Her Honeymoon Trip — Now She's Upset

Mar. 15, 2025

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A soon-to-be bride planning a honeymoon in Barcelona is dealing with a friend who once “joked” about “tagging along” and now apparently wants to fly to the destination together.

In aposton Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum on Sunday, Oct. 13, an anonymous user wrote that she “thought” she told her best friend about her plans to spend her honeymoon in Barcelona. Now, the friend is planning a trip to the same city, claiming she didn’t know about the bride’s honeymoon plans.

As the bride explained, she would “prefer if this wasn’t the case” and anticipates that the best friend “will want to spend some time” with her and her new husband in Spain.

“[I] can foresee her feeling offended if we don’t,” she wrote of meeting up during the honeymoon. “I suggested to my friend that if we are all going at the same time that my husband and I book different flights and expressed that I would not feel comfortable being on the exact same flights.”

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Still, the bride ended up getting a phone call from a mutual friend, who asked her what she did to “make my best friend upset.”

“This was really surprising to me, and now my best friend doesn’t want to speak to me and my 2nd friend is seemingly on my best friend’s side and says I should apologize,” she added. “I feel so confused. I feel as though I am justified in wanting to take separate flights. I don’t want to dismiss my friend’s feelings but I’m struggling to understand her reaction.”

After the woman asked fellow Reddit users if she was in the wrong for taking a firm stance on her honeymoon flight, most agreed that the friend was asking for too much. The most-upvoted response even suggested that the friend seemed “obsessed” with the soon-to-be bride.

“What you said to her was entirely reasonable — it’s your honeymoon, of course you want some private time with your new spouse. It’s not even about your friend, but she is making it all about her,” they wrote. “Just remember that you can’t control her responses to your boundaries, but you can control what happens when she crosses them (and how you interact with her while you set those boundaries).”

The commenter added that it if the bride expects the friend to be “attaching herself to you and your new spouse for at least a part of the trip,” it might be “time to have a frank conversation with her about it.”

“I can understand if you want to wait until after the wedding, but I would CERTAINLY rebook things, if not the flight, the entire trip, so that you can avoid her crashing your honeymoon,” they concluded. “After that, I would consider cutting her off — this is majorly manipulative behavior on her part.”

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Another person noted that it was “ridiculous” that the bride-to-be “can’t see that this was intentional” and that her friend “wasn’t joking” about wanting to join the honeymoon.

“She fully planned this,” they wrote. “She planned to spend the entire trip with you and is now sulking because you’ve told her that won’t be happening. She is obsessed with you and is mad that you’re ‘being taken from her.’ You need to put boundaries and space between you before she gets other bright ideas.”

source: people.com