Eva Mendes Reveals She Asks Herself 'Who Am I' as Her Daughters Have Gotten Older: 'I Felt Lost'

Mar. 15, 2025

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When she became a mother,Eva Mendeswent through a variety of emotions — including wondering who she was.

Appearing onThe Drew Barrymore Showon Thursday, Sept. 19, the actress and author, 50, spoke withDrew Barrymoreabout their feelings since becoming mothers. Mendes is mom to daughters Esmeralda Amada, 10, and Amada Lee, 8, whom she shares with partnerRyan Gosling, while Barrymore is mom to daughters Olive, 11, and Frankie, 10, whom she shares with ex-husband Will Kopelman.

“I felt a little lost when I had kids, in the sense where I was like, I don’t really know how to do that job and be other people. What was it for you, may I ask?” Barrymore asks Mendes.

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“Yeah, I felt, I actually didn’t feel lost. I felt very clear but then I felt lost, if that makes sense,” Mendes shares. “Then when it was like the cliche of, ok well, who am I now after the kids can survive on their own?”

“I mean, they’re only 8 and 10, but you know what I mean? They don’t need me every second, it’s a little different. But I love talking to my girls about anything so I feel very fulfilled,” adds Mendes.

Earlier in August, Mendes revealed onInstagramthe one itemshe can’t leave the house without: stuffed animals. As a mom to her two daughters, Mendes said, “It’s all they want!”

Eva Mendes.Donato Sardella/Getty Images for New York & Company

Donato Sardella/Getty Images for New York & Company

Posting two pictures of herself wearing an oversized pair of purple sunglasses and a large tote bag, the mom of two wrote, “Mami Life. I’m officially in the Stuffy Era. Where I cannot leave the house without at least two of them in my big Mami bag.”

“Are there others like me?” she asked in her caption. “When does this phase end? They’re everywhere! It’s all they want! 🧸!”

source: people.com