Shelley Duvall's 34-Year Partner Dan Gilroy Recalls the Actress' Final Days: 'We Found Moments of Joy' (Exclusive)

Mar. 15, 2025

“We fell in love on the set,” Gilroy, 77, tells PEOPLE. “We were pretty inseparable from then on.”

Their three decades together, many of which were spent in the roaring hill country of Blanco, Texas, included a lot of animals. “Little tiny birds, finches, parrots, dogs, cats, lizards. It was like a traveling menagerie,” Gilroy quips. In the months leading up toDuvall’s deathdue to complications from diabetes on July 11 at age 75, Gilroy says much time was spent reminiscing about where it all began. “We found moments of joy,” he says. “I’d bring my computer in, we’d watch some shows….Mother Goose Rock ‘n Rhymeand things she had produced over the years and those gave some comfort.”

Now in a new phase of life, Gilroy is reminiscing about his past, too. The singer — who dated Madonna, 66, and taught her to play the guitar during their time in Breakfast Club — is putting up items for sale atGuernsey’s 60th anniversary Downtown auctionon Sept. 25, includingsome of Madonna’s equipmentthat she wrote her earliest songs on, and signed. “It’s time,” he says.

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Opening up about Duvall’smental health “challenges,”Gilroy recalls a significant shift that occurred 18 years ago. “One month everything got really weird and paranoid, she felt under attack and asked the neighbors to come over and bring weapons to protect us,” he says. “Her mother’s second husband was a former FBI agent, and she just felt under attack off and on from then on.”

From then on, her diabetes and dementia slowed her down. “We stopped being able to walk, she was bedridden for a long time, but we could still drive — she loved to drive,” Gilroy tells PEOPLE. “She never thought about not being here or that the end is near, but at some point, it was just too far gone. The mental challenges made her, I think, unaware of what was going to happen and just as well, maybe.”

Duvall’s last night left Gilroy with deep regret. “I had a room next to hers, and in her final months she would call me three or four times a night because she needed to change position or be cleaned up or wanted a beverage,” he recalls. “The night before she died, I told her, ‘Shelley, I have an interview tomorrow. I can’t keep waking up like this.’ I found her the next morning and I couldn’t stop holding her and kissing her even though she wasn’t there anymore.”

Still impacting the acting world, Duvall’s final filmThe Forest Hillsis set to release in early October. “She never stopped thinking of herself as an actor,” Gilroy says about her final acting gig. “It lifted her spirits and it made her aware that, ‘This is my latest thing.’ She was in many movies and she felt like it connected her to the rest of her career, which was quite fabulous.”

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After 34 years of spending “nearly every day together,” Gilroy knows there was something special about Duvall. “There was a mix of smartness and innocence about her that I saw in no one else ever. She was always just so enthusiastic and so much fun every day.”

He adds, “And that was Shelley. She made it all an adventure.”

source: people.com