Sister Wives' Kody Brown Wants to Reconcile with Janelle to 'Be Back in Graces' with Their Kids: It's a 'Power Game'

Mar. 15, 2025

(L-R) Janelle Brown with her kids; Kody Brown on Sister Wives.Photo:TLC (2)

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JanelleandKody Brownare struggling to navigatelife after their separation.

During the Nov. 3 episode ofSister Wives,Janelle and Kody sat down to discuss their relationship status and how they planned to handle their finances regarding the future of Coyote Pass. When Janelle suggested Kody buy her out, he wondered why she wasn’t considering living on the land with him.

“I don’t think we even exist in the same universe anymore,” Janelle said. “I think you’re awesome, and whenever we talk, I still feel that you’ve got this little hook in me or whatever, but I’ve been so happy that I don’t foresee a long-term thing for us.”

She then said in her confessional: “I don’t even know who he is anymore, really. He hasn’t been in my house for two years.”

(L-R) Janelle Brown and Kody Brown on Sister Wives.TLC

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“We haven’t really talked about a relationship,” Kody replied, but Janelle disagreed.

(L-R) Janelle Brown and Kody Brown are pictured with their kids.TLC

Janelle later noted that Kody “wants a wife that acts differently than I do,” citing that as the reason she would not go back to him.

“It’s over,” she said. “I guess I don’t need some finality piece to say that.”

She went on to explain to Kody that their issues with one another, like her “independence” and his “selfishness,” got in the way of their relationship.

“Is that in the past two years with the divorce?” he questioned.

“No, maybe you always were,” she responded. “And there’s a big question of the kids. The kids now talk about the dad they grew up with versus who you are now.”

“Well, they’ve shut me out and they’re going based upon recency bias,” Kody snapped. “They’re going based upon what happened during COVID.”

Janelle Brown on Sister Wives.TLC

Janelle partially agreed, saying Kody was “always a good dad” despite the issues in their relationship, but his lack of a connection with the kids as adults was concerning to her.

“Now, I don’t know how I would ever reconcile with him and not have him not have a relationship with my kids,” she said. “I’m going to always choose my kids.”

“Even before that, it felt like I wasn’t as important,” Janelle said.

Kody Brown on Sister Wives.TLC

“You don’t have little kids, does that mean that the generation gap between you and Robin is too much to actually breach?” he asked Janelle.

“I don’t find I have much in common with her,” Janelle said. “And I feel like it’s a problem that I’m not.”

“This happens every time the kids talk to him about Robin or I talk to him, it’s like he just doesn’t want to go there,” she said. “That’s his sacred cow. She’s perfect. Don’t dare talk about her. And I’m like, ‘Well, dude, how do you expect to be in a plural marriage with me if you have this person that you worship?’ That’s part of being a husband in a plural marriage, you have to be able to hear everybody equally.”

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Season 19 ofSister Wivesairs Sundays at 10 p.m. ET on TLC.

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