Teddi Mellencamp Says She Has Taken Accountability for Marriage to Edwin Arroyave Ending: '3 Sides to Every Story'

Mar. 15, 2025

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Teddi Mellencampwants to move forward.Three weeks afterannouncing her divorcefrom her husband of 13 years,Edwin Arroyave, Mellencamp, 43,posted on Instagramthat she gives herself “permission to grow and thrive” as rumors swirl about what caused the split.“The only person who can change your life is you,” theReal Housewives of Beverly Hillsalum wrote on Sunday, Nov. 24. “We have 2 options, pretend to be a victim or stand up and fight for yourself. We all deserve peace and happiness.”Over a video of Mellencamp shuffling on a Peloton treadmill set toChristina Aguilera’s “Fighter,” the reality star wrote that she’d “cried and mourned” and has “taken accountability and apologized for things I have done wrong.”“I have decided to not pander to the media because in the big scheme of things. Click bait means nothing and of course 3 sides to every story,” she stated. “How I can stand up and show up for the people that do matter does.”Teddi Mellecamp’s Nov. 24 Instagram Reel.Teddi Mellecamp/InstagramMellencamp felt that “this is called being an adult.”“This is what saying it with my full chest means,” she concluded.On Nov. 1, Mellencampfiled for divorcefrom Arroyave, 47, citing irreconcilable differences and listing Oct. 20 as the date of separation. The Bravo vet originally requested primary custody of her and Arroyave’s daughters Slate, 12, and Dove, 4, and son Cruz, 10, but according tonew court documents filed later in the month, she decided to seek joint physical and legal custody.The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now!Mellencamp addressed the breakup on Instagram on Nov. 2, writing that she “made the difficult decision to file for divorce” from Arroyave.“My priority is my children and ensuring that every care is taken with their privacy and wellbeing throughout this new chapter,” Mellencamp, who is the daughter of rockerJohn Mellencamp, stated. “Making a public statement is not something I wanted to do but in an effort to protect my family form undue speculation and rumors, I felt being open, honest and vulnerable was the best path forward.”Edwin Arroyave and Teddi Mellencamp at ‘Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen’.Charles Sykes/Bravo/GettyThe next day, Arroyave posted on his Instagram Stories about how adopting “healthy habits” can help someone through their “dark days.““I recently spoke about just getting 3 hours of sleep a night,” he captioned a screenshot of an app showing he slept for over nine hours. “Finally got some rest!“Never miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer​​, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.Arroyave also posted a selfie from a hot yoga studio and wrote that “rituals & habits” help you when you don’t feel “motivated or inspired.”“It’s when you’re under pressure that your true character is revealed,” Arroyave added.On the Nov. 14 episode of herTwo Ts In a Podpodcast, Mellencamp said, “I’m doing the best that I can,” as she continues “showing up for work.”  She also didn’t want to “want to throw other people under the bus” in the process.“There’s always, in every situation, gonna be somebody who is vocal and someone who is not, and I know in my world of recappingHousewives, I’m pretty vocal,” the mom of three continued. “But when it comes to kids and other people’s lives that didn’t sign up for this or did sign up for this, I got to just take a beat.”

Teddi Mellencampwants to move forward.

Three weeks afterannouncing her divorcefrom her husband of 13 years,Edwin Arroyave, Mellencamp, 43,posted on Instagramthat she gives herself “permission to grow and thrive” as rumors swirl about what caused the split.

“The only person who can change your life is you,” theReal Housewives of Beverly Hillsalum wrote on Sunday, Nov. 24. “We have 2 options, pretend to be a victim or stand up and fight for yourself. We all deserve peace and happiness.”

Over a video of Mellencamp shuffling on a Peloton treadmill set toChristina Aguilera’s “Fighter,” the reality star wrote that she’d “cried and mourned” and has “taken accountability and apologized for things I have done wrong.”

“I have decided to not pander to the media because in the big scheme of things. Click bait means nothing and of course 3 sides to every story,” she stated. “How I can stand up and show up for the people that do matter does.”

Teddi Mellecamp’s Nov. 24 Instagram Reel.Teddi Mellecamp/Instagram

Teddi Mellecamp/Instagram

Mellencamp felt that “this is called being an adult.”

“This is what saying it with my full chest means,” she concluded.

On Nov. 1, Mellencampfiled for divorcefrom Arroyave, 47, citing irreconcilable differences and listing Oct. 20 as the date of separation. The Bravo vet originally requested primary custody of her and Arroyave’s daughters Slate, 12, and Dove, 4, and son Cruz, 10, but according tonew court documents filed later in the month, she decided to seek joint physical and legal custody.

The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now!

Mellencamp addressed the breakup on Instagram on Nov. 2, writing that she “made the difficult decision to file for divorce” from Arroyave.

“My priority is my children and ensuring that every care is taken with their privacy and wellbeing throughout this new chapter,” Mellencamp, who is the daughter of rockerJohn Mellencamp, stated. “Making a public statement is not something I wanted to do but in an effort to protect my family form undue speculation and rumors, I felt being open, honest and vulnerable was the best path forward.”

Edwin Arroyave and Teddi Mellencamp at ‘Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen’.Charles Sykes/Bravo/Getty

Charles Sykes/Bravo/Getty

The next day, Arroyave posted on his Instagram Stories about how adopting “healthy habits” can help someone through their “dark days.”

“I recently spoke about just getting 3 hours of sleep a night,” he captioned a screenshot of an app showing he slept for over nine hours. “Finally got some rest!”

Never miss a story — sign up forPEOPLE’s free daily newsletterto stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer​​, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.

Arroyave also posted a selfie from a hot yoga studio and wrote that “rituals & habits” help you when you don’t feel “motivated or inspired.”

“It’s when you’re under pressure that your true character is revealed,” Arroyave added.

On the Nov. 14 episode of herTwo Ts In a Podpodcast, Mellencamp said, “I’m doing the best that I can,” as she continues “showing up for work.”  She also didn’t want to “want to throw other people under the bus” in the process.

“There’s always, in every situation, gonna be somebody who is vocal and someone who is not, and I know in my world of recappingHousewives, I’m pretty vocal,” the mom of three continued. “But when it comes to kids and other people’s lives that didn’t sign up for this or did sign up for this, I got to just take a beat.”

source: people.com