Woman Says She Was Called Out by Family After She Didn’t Attend Sister's Baby Shower Following Her Own Miscarriage

Mar. 15, 2025

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Detailing that the loss “hit us hard,” the woman said she “struggled deeply, even having dark thoughts about ending my life” and strayed from family, as she “couldn’t bear to see my sister pregnant.”

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According to the woman, she informed her family that she would be in attendance at the wedding, but she would not be able to attend the next events, given that “being around pregnant women is a trigger for me, reminding me of our loss.”

Though she said that her family “seemed to understand but hoped we might change our minds,” the woman further explained that the family celebrated together on the wedding day, but she was met with an angry message from another sibling shortly after.

“The next morning, my older sister (not the pregnant one) sent me a long message, essentially saying, ‘Your sister was there for you during your milestones, why can’t you be there for her now? Focus your energy on her and move on already,’ " she wrote, adding that she was “devastated” and her husband “was furious at the insensitivity and realized this was how the whole family felt.”

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After asking the Reddit forum if she was in the wrong for her decision, many sided with the woman, understanding her struggle and grief.

“Two miscarriages can feel absolutely devastating and people don’t understand until they’ve experienced it — how much it crushes your spirit, your innocence and your future,” one commenter wrote, as another added, “Your reaction is perfectly normal under the circumstances and it is a shame that your family [is] criticizing you when they should be supporting you and your husband.”

source: people.com